Dating in Buenos Aires as a foreigner

[Tim56]

Hey everyone, so my pals and I are here visiting from Europe, and man, we're loving every bit of it! But hey, we've run into a couple of bumps on the road, especially when it comes to meeting awesome women here. Now, we're wondering if this is just our luck or if it's a typical Porteño thing.

Okay, so here's the deal. It seems like everyone here is all about Instagram, which caught us off guard because back home, we'd just exchange numbers or WhatsApp. But here, even though there's no issue exchanging handles, we're not getting much of a response. They'll chat a bit, and then poof! They vanish. Are we missing something in our texts or is this just a cultural difference?

And then there's the flirting game. You meet these amazing women, have a blast, but later find out they're taken. Is this just the warmth of Argentine folks that we're confusing for genuine interest?

Oh, and here's a kicker. We were told by a local that if you meet a girl one night and don't reconnect in the next day or two, she's gone for good. We thought he was exaggerating, but turns out, he might be onto something! What gives? Is everyone here just super busy and social, always onto the next thing?

By the way, don't get me wrong, we've met some absolutely fantastic women here. These are just a few things we've picked up on and are curious about.

 

[NatyBA]

As an Argentine woman, I can usually sense when someone is desperate for sex. They might have given you their Instagram because they check it more often.

It varies from person to person, but I've experienced it with guys. If you're here with friends, we probably won't invest time or effort because we assume you're a player.

 

[noname]

They share their instagram because it seems less "personal", it gains more followers and it's easy for them to ghost you.
I guess you should ask first if they are with someone or if they have a boyfriend because otherwise they can use you for a free drink. You don't need to buy her a drink to know if she likes you or not.

Anyway, I don't think you should generalize, I have also had good experiences.

 

[walter50]

Okay, so here's the deal. It seems like everyone here is all about Instagram, which caught us off guard because back home, we'd just exchange numbers or WhatsApp. But here, even though there's no issue exchanging handles, we're not getting much of a response. They'll chat a bit, and then poof! They vanish. Are we missing something in our texts or is this just a cultural difference?

Always try to make your "chamuyo" good enough for HER to give you her insta. Most girls will give you their insta when they're not interested just to check if you're a good call or not, so you have to make a good impression first to get a second date (nice guy approach) or score some kisses or even a hook-up that same night with her to have a good chance of a second time (flirty approach). If everything goes well and she hasn't given you her insta/whatsapp, you can ask her.

And then there's the flirting game. You meet these amazing women, have a blast, but later find out they're taken. Is this just the warmth of Argentine folks that we're confusing for genuine interest?

Yes, you can have a few drinks and chat all night with a girl and she might not want to sleep with you. There are many people who just want to get to know you for real and it's not about sex. You can invite her for drinks and all that, but first, make sure they're single.

Oh, and here's a kicker. We were told by a local that if you meet a girl one night and don't reconnect in the next day or two, she's gone for good. We thought he was exaggerating, but turns out, he might be onto something! What gives? Is everyone here just super busy and social, always onto the next thing?

Well... first, you have to make a good impression and make them come alone, and if they don't come alone after the first good impression, you have to play it like "Sorry, I've been in a busy week and I was thinking about what a great night I had with you. Do you want to do something this weekend?"

If they're "always busy with other plans," you gotta start chatting with other chicks and keep the one who told you she's "busy" in the "chit-chat from time to time" status. Later on, you might have your chance. Never invest too much, but don't stop investing in the "busy" girls. There'll come a time when your offer will be better than what they've got planned (if you're good enough at "chamuyos").

Other advice:

• Don't try to chit-chat too much unless she starts it. Always go first with the "I wanna hang out again with you" approach.
• You can try to be really bold with your flirt intentions. Don't be shy to say something like "I've been watching you and I can't take my eyes off of you, wanna drink something?" Plenty of girls prefer a guy whose intentions are direct instead of a chit-chatter who wants to do the same thing but takes three months to do it.

Good Luck and Have Fun!

 

[fool in love]

I am far from an expert but my experience based on my first trip is see how you are meeting these girls. My first trip I went to some clubs and some girls came me their Instagram. I was not on IG so I had to sign up. But then I found out some girls are escorts. And they aren't looking to date. They are just interested in making $$. I am not sure where you are meeting these girls but beware of that scenario.

I met a wonderful girlfriend but that is a soap opera.

 

[FuturoBA]

No matter where you are the best advice is to make female friends. Having pre-selection makes talking to other girls much easier when you've already been vetted and shown you can make them comfortable. Other parts such as confidence, charisma, and ability to escalate matter too, but already having girls who vouch for you makes it that much easier.

 

[Bill]

No matter where you are the best advice is to make female friends. Having pre-selection makes talking to other girls much easier when you've already been vetted and shown you can make them comfortable. Other parts such as confidence, charisma, and ability to escalate matter too, but already having girls who vouch for you makes it that much easier.

This is excellent advice. I do the same thing and always helps. My issue is not meeting the girls. I just have to stop getting married and divorced.